Dealing with conflict!

No matter how much you and your spouse love each other, conflict is inevitable because marriage is the coming together of two imperfect human beings. Therefore it is wise to learn how to resolve conflict quickly. It also helps if you make up your mind that you will extend forgiveness a million times if necessary!

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Your marriage is a gift!

Remember your marriage is a gift! Even if you are both going through a rough patch and it doesn’t exactly feel very glorious at the moment it is still a major blessing. Just ask one of the many lonely people in the world! Please also remember that the spouse you have (who is always getting on your nerves), someone else would be very happy to have them! If you refuse to consider yourself blessed and start treating  your spouse graciously, that someone else may start to seem like a much better option to them of always  than you. Seriously think about it. Who on earth likes to be nagged to death? Is someone else saying sweet nothings to the one you refuse to treasure? Instead of always waiting for your spouse to change, why don’t you decide to change yourself? That is something you can certainly have control over, and you and your spouse will be happier for it!

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New focus….(Each other)!

Love and marriage is about focusing on your spouse’s needs as opposed to just your own all the time! If you both concentrate on doing that, then the way that marriage is designed,  you’ll find you’ll both get your needs met anyway as it happens! When both people are continually selfish and self centred it eats away at the marriage like a cancer. If however one or both people courageously choose to break that cycle, you’ll find you’re actually on the same team and everyone is a winner!

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Is your marriage healthy?


Do you ensure you do everything you can to make sure your spouse feels loved and appreciated by you? Do you minister to them or manipulate them? Do they resent you for  putting them under pressure and causing them to feel used ? To keep our marriages healthy it is worth asking ourselves these questions on a regular basis!

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A great reason for a marriage to break down!

8th of August 2013

Only too often the reason that a marriage breaks down is simply that after the excitment of the wedding day, what comes to light are hidden, deceitful,destructive underlining habitual behavoural pattens. Such methods as being controlling and manipulative are sure marriage killers. Afterall who wants to feel as if their free will has been violated? Being aware of this is half the battle, because then it is possible to stop yourself and make a concious effort to only allow yourself to do those things that will build a warm, strong, healthy and fruitful marriage.

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How dead or alive is your marriage?

26th of July 2013

Lets face it folks marriage is hard work! When its great,  it is heavenly! When its not so great it can feel as if all of hell has been let loose! Husbands, wives, there is no shame in seeking help if your marriage needs it. What matters is being determined to do everything you can to make your marriage work. If that means getting counselling or going on a marriage course, then swallow your pride and do it. At the end of the day can you put a price tag on a marriage that feels like it was made in heaven? If thats the kind of marriage you want, then it stands to reason that it is wise to put the work and effort in. Surely the truth is that such renewed commitment, can infuse life even into the deadest of marriages!

Emotional walls.. a good or bad idea in marriage?

8th of July 2013

Do you put up emotional walls in your marriage in a desperate attempt to protect and preserve yourself and avoid pain? The problem with that ofcourse is that the walls that are meant to protect you also barricade you in, and as a result you become isolated. The very walls that are supposed to protect you from any hurt also shut out any much needed love too. Its a constant cycle which eliminates any chance of deep valuable healing. Yes sometimes it seems that life sets you up to get hurt, however your spouse if given a chance could end up being instumental in bringing about healing for you within your marriage. Your marriage should be a safe place as opposed to just a battle ground with just one more enemy in it! Take responsibility and understand that your marriage is what you make it. If there is room for improvment, then don’t wait for your spouse to change, why don’t you take the iniative and be prepared to change first? Does it really matter who makes the first move, or who has the last say?  Its wise to make up your mind once and for all whether or not you want your want your marriage to work or not!

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