Putting your marriage into perspective!

Your marriage is a blessing and a gift that many do not yet have and can only hope for! Granted it may not always feel very glorious at times, however that is no excuse to take it for granted! Do you know that the wife or husband that gets on your nerves……would actually be a tremendous blessing to someone else? Their lack, would actually be a reason for them to be so happy and appreciative of what you perhaps look down your nose at! Hopefully this reality check helps you to put things into perspective! It is important to see that things could always be so much worse! So, take a deep breath, look at the bigger picture, and thank God for what you do have!

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Do you want to stay married or not?

As a husband or wife, would you say that you are a reliable source of support for your spouse? Can they count on you to be there for them in anyway they need you to be? Do you provide a safe place for them to be themselves without fear of judgement? Or do you think your main job is to nag and criticize them until you successfully put them in their place? These questions can be answered as you look back to your wedding day and consider honestly the vows you made to your spouse. This is not rocket science. Doing certain things will successfully tear away at the fabric of your marriage causing it to disintegrate. The question ofcourse is…. do you want to stay married or not?

How are you a blessing to your marriage?

Happy new year to every married couple! It is wonderful to have entered 2015 safely with your spouse….(spare a thought for all those who are now widowed for one reason or another). With this in mind I have a question for you? How do you plan to be a special blessing to your husband/wife this year? What are you going to do to make them thank God they have you in their lives? Being a blessing is not just a coincidence! It often takes doing certain things on purpose! How are you a blessing to your marriage? Are there ways in which you are actually a liability? How do you plan to address those things, habits and behaviour? What can you do to make things better? How can you add to the quality of the marriage? As there is always room for improvement, what else can you bring to the table?

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Date nights with your spouse!

9th of September 2013

Do you ever have date nights with your spouse? Doesn’t life just get so busy with work, kids, money pressures? e.t.c  When was the last time you just relaxed with your husband or wife giving them your full undivided attention? Why not plan your next date? Kick off your shoes, take the phone off the hook, watch a fim and enjoy each other? It will do you both the world of good. It might even remind you both why you fall in love in the  first place!

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Are you a best friend to your spouse?

1st of March 2013

Wives how much of a best friend are you to your husband? Husbands how much of a best friend are you to your wife? Do you put your spouse at ease and make it easy for them to share their heart with you? When something incredibly exciting or absolutely devastating happens in your day, is your spouse the first or last person you think of to share this with? This is a good test to participate in regardless of who you are. I believe it will tell you a lot about what you need to know about your marriage! Obviously different marriages are at different levels of communication and intimacy, so this test is only to help you decide whether you need to invest more into this area. When a husband and wife are meant to be basking in the light of unity and togetherness, then having a best friend in your spouse can prove to be one of the greatest blessings you could have. So invest yourself in the right kind of ground that will yield a good harvest. That of course doesn’t mean you can’t and shouldn’t have other friends who you confide in. However God knows the world is unfriendly enough without you feeling as if you live with an enemy in your own home!

Are you big enough to apologise first!

24th of April 2012

Marriage tip of the day:

It makes no difference whether you are the husband or the wife, you both have an obligation to yourself, each other and the marriage as a whole. Therefore do yourselves a favour and learn the art of saying “I’m sorry.” When you consider that it takes two people to argue, have a misunderstanding and fall out, then surely it must also be the responsibility of  both to try and be the first to apologise. In a good and healthy marriage there is little room for pride, or the luxury and satisfaction of proving you are right and your spouse is wrong. When you both have peace as the same priority, then harmony indeed will reign and speak for itself in your home, as you both excel at the art of apologising!